Everything is a choice
Life is full of choices and we need to decide what choices we make on a daily basis.
Choices could be positive, negative or neutral.
When we decide to live by the choices we make then we are able to move out of the loop of blame, guilt and regret. Because we start taking responsibility for our lives. Choices help us to make decisions with a thought and not randomly. It facilitates the thinking process.
Whether i am following instructions or whether i am doing something i think is right is a choice. We choose each moment of our life and hence we can design our lives.
Choices makes life simple in the long run, it may seem like a process in the situation.
Life is all about living it fully and balanced. At the end of the day we need to feel happy, peaceful and fulfilled. And to do that we need to live it in that way.
In my experience i have seen lot of the people talk about ‘my life, my choice’ but dont really live by it. Its easier said than done. When we live by the choices we make then we are in control of our life. And it seems being in control is important but in most cases its at the surface level and thats where all the blame, guilt and regret comes in. when we are in control then only we can get the freedom to live our lives the way we desire.
Freedom of living comes with control of our life and control of our life comes with the choices we make in our lives.
Its a difficult journey to be living by our choices because we live in a society and conformity is very important part of being in a society as we humans want to belong. I am not saying that is wrong because we cannot disrupt the societal systems as there will be chaos. But thinking out of the box or living on your own terms should not feel that we are being judged but thats exactly what happens.and each individual has their own perception and will see he situation in there own ways.
For example – stealing is wrong in the eyes of society. But if a mother steals milk or food for her child. Is it wrong or right. Here also people can have different perceptions; some may say depends on the age of the child, some may say its wrong only she could have asked instead, some may say its right that’s mother’s love and she cant see her child hungry etc.
So life is about choices and no choice can be justified into wrong or right. It depends on your own perception which has come from the experiences and learnings of life.
A parenting advice on choices. When my children were small I always gave them choices and those choices were options that were conveniently possible for me to do. What happened was my daughters learnt to make their choices and take their decisions and hence started taking responsibility for their lives. Which brought them into the space of thinking out for themselves and becoming independent.
With choices comes responsibility. Responsibility of the choice one makes. Responsibility of the decision one takes. And responsibility for the consequences.
The choices we make could sometimes lead to a consequence that was not anticipated and sometimes could have a positive or a negative impact in our lives but the best part is that since its a choice made we dont fall into the trap of blame guilt and regret. We also dont feel that we were forced in the situation and we feel the freedom to do what we want to do.
The biggest success in life as to my experience is when we have the freedom to do whatever we like and that according to me is very important and critical.
Response or reaction are both choices; response is conscious choice and reaction is unconscious choice.